If couples are not sure whether divorce is the next step, discernment counseling is a good tool to help ascertain which direction to go. Discernment counseling is not marriage counseling aiming to solve the relationship problems or bring couples closer, but a way to help couples figure out whether their problems can be solved and whether they both want to try.

It is very limited in scope, 1-4 sessions, with the focus being whether to work on the relationship or pursue a divorce. It allows couples to explore all options, including reconciliation, and weigh the pros and cons of each choice. Discernment counseling creates a safe space for couples to express concerns without escalating conflicts.

If it is determined that divorce is the next step, discernment counseling can help couples transition by teaching them how to regulate emotions, communicate respectfully and explore strategies for self-care during the transitional period. By developing and learning healthy communication skills, partners can engage in constructive discussions and make decisions together while maintaining a respectful relationship.

Discernment counseling can facilitate a sense of closure and provide space for healing as partners begin to uncoupling. It can help couples process the emotional aspects of divorce, work towards finding acceptance and move forward with their lives.